Marriage counseling for people who are good at hard things.
You lead a company, a practice, a team, or a church, and a family. You can carry a lot. But the same conversation keeps ending the same way, and you're out of moves. We're a husband-and-wife therapist team in North Richland Hills, Texas. We use Gottman and EFT in a structured program with a beginning, a middle, and an end.
Who we work with
Most of the couples who find us are capable, established, and privately worn out. If that's you, you're in the right place.
Couples who run things
Business owners, physicians, executives, pastors, attorneys, officers. People used to being the one with the answer, who have found a problem that doesn't respond to effort.
Marriages that look fine from the outside
Two good people who keep hurting each other. Long calm stretches, then the same trigger, the same argument, the same hurt. You've started to wonder whether it can be solved.
Families with a lot on the plate
Kids, aging parents, a company, a congregation. You don't need another open-ended weekly obligation. You need a defined process that respects your time and actually finishes.
People of faith, and people who aren't sure
We're followers of Jesus and we love research. You'll never be preached at, and you'll never be asked to leave your convictions at the door. Every background is welcome here.
A process with a beginning, middle, and an end
Counseling shouldn't be a subscription. Ours has a shape: we find the cycle you're stuck in, we dismantle it together, and we check that the new pattern holds at home. Then we're done.
Assess
A one-hour consult with each of you separately, then structured assessments. We map your attachment histories and name the specific cycle you keep falling into.
Do the work
Two-hour sessions, often with both of us in the room so each of you has a therapist in your corner and neither of you is outnumbered. Or compress the whole program into one weekend.
Follow up
Check-ins at one and two months to make sure what changed in our office is still working in your kitchen. Some couples come back years later for a tune-up. Most don't need to.
A typical in-office couple spends 12 to 24 hours with us over two to four months. Everything is included in the rate: assessments, materials, follow-ups.
One weekend. Both of us. The whole picture.
Saturday evening through Monday afternoon at a private retreat within an hour of DFW, or in our office if you're local. It's the full program in three days, built for couples who can't string together four months of Tuesday evenings, and for couples who'd rather not. From $3,500, entire program included. See the full intensive schedule and details.
Saturday evening Welcome. One-hour individual meetings, one of you with Seth and one with Beth. Then the evening is yours.
Sunday Morning left open for worship, reflection, and quiet. Lunch on site. Five hours of sessions with both of us. Dinner at a local restaurant of your choice, included.
Monday Six hours with Seth, lunch on site, and a plan you both own.
Afterward Two-hour follow-up sessions at one month and two months.
Includes Pre-intensive consults and assessments
Two nights' lodging and meals for out-of-town couples ($4,500 total cost).
Twenty minutes from DFW International Airport
FAQs
Is this going to work? Can you actually fix our relationship?
We get this a lot! No one can “fix” your relationship but you and your partner, but research gives us a road map. Gottman coaching and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) are both highly effective because we get you to do the work, not us. We have a high success rate when both partners commit to the process. In our last survey, 95% of our couples were still together after 2 years, and 75% saw significant improvement in their relationship. It takes intense commitment and dedication to fully adhering to the process. If you stick to the process and let us guide you, odds are very much in your favor.
What are couples sessions like?
We use a flexible, structured format that begins with an assessment, guides you to practice problem solving together, and does follow-up over the coming weeks.
Our sessions are two hours or longer. We start with exploring your attachment history and examining your current communication patterns. Then we spend a lot of time listening to you as you work to express why you feel stuck. As we do this, we invariably bump into the same communication blocks you hit at home. This is where we slow it down and dismantle the blocks.
What are the cost and time commitments?
A typical couple spends between 12-24 hours total with us over a period of 2-4 months, whether through a standard office format or a weekend intensive. The time investment of counseling depends on factors specific to your situation. Couples with newer marriages and those with fewer compounding factors fall on the shorter end of that spectrum, while those with decades-long marriages, compounded trauma, family blending, typically go longer. Either way, your time with us has a life cycle and an end. Cost is $195 per counseling hour for standard visits. Some couples come back for another round much later. There is, of course, no one-size-fits-all and these averages can vary widely. Check out our full rate chart here.
Can I “try you out” first and then change my mind? Or come alone first and then have my spouse join later?
Many individuals want to test the waters first. We highly recommend liking your counselor! If we aren’t a fit, we will cheer you on to find your fit. If 10-15 minutes on the phone doesn’t settle it, come check us out for a session.
If you want to come alone and bring your spouse in later, mention it in the first session and we will game plan. We like to get the spouse on as soon as possible so there is never the perception of an alliance. The primary goal is for him/her to feel completely comfortable and accepted by an unbiased third party.
Are you going to side with my spouse because they are better with emotions?
Maybe you’re not very fluent with expressing your emotions and counseling is your worst nightmare. You aren’t the problem. No one person ever is. No we aren’t going to gang up on you, buy their story and leave you high and dry. It takes two to create whatever problems you may have. If we are siding with one person, we aren’t doing our job.
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